Believing survivors isn’t the same as holding their trauma

CN: Discussion of racial and sexual violence I want you to know that, even as I write this, I’m a survivor of childhood abuse. Being received and believed by others has been a big part of healing all aspects of this. I firsthand understand how healing it can be for survivorship to be believed. I…

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The hidden cost of call-out culture is bigotry

How does your body respond to the following statement? Call-out culture enables bigotry. And healing it within our relationships is one of the first responsibilities we have as radical/progressive/liberal people. One of the problems with how we talk about call-out culture is that we tend to treat it as an internal dialogue within activist communities about…

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Is the Trump-era a morbid illness or healing crisis? I think it can be both.

In this piece, I would like to speak to a question that many of us in social justice community have asked since the beginning of Trump’s presidency: is this the foreboding of a terrible sickness overtaking our culture or the beginning of a deep healing process? My understanding is that the above two possibilities are…

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What quantum physics can tell us about activism: that change is messy

Quantum physics has shown us that the everyday reality we live in is actually founded on a super-tiny befuddling unseen world that is completely topsy-turvy. Matter behaves both like waves and particles. Time is all over the place. Everything exists everywhere. The laws of physics that help us make sense of the tangible visible world…

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A talk with Tad Hargrave part 2: Tone-policing and moving beyond right-wrong

  In part 2 of our recorded video chat, me and Tad discussed the issue of tone-policing and how we can move beyond binaries of right and wrong to navigate emotionally charged discussions around subjects such as race. You can check out part 1 here. About Tad Hargrave Tad runs marketingforhippies.com for work and write essays…

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Calling to: A proposal for an alternative communication protocol in social change communities

Since it’s pilot stages, the Authentic Allyship Coaching Group, a program I founded to support white allies in cultivating allyship based on the principles of healthy relating, has been intentionally held as a call-out (or even call-in) free space. I set this initial guideline for the group because I felt that it was extremely important…

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