In my work as a POC somatic therapist that works with white people, I model allyship as a relationship, rather than a set of obligations. This work necessarily brings me to a question that could be quite discomforting but also vital: “how do allies deserve to be treated?” This question is not just about how…
In part 2 of our recorded video chat, me and Tad discussed the issue of tone-policing and how we can move beyond binaries of right and wrong to navigate emotionally charged discussions around subjects such as race. You can check out part 1 here. About Tad Hargrave Tad runs marketingforhippies.com for work and write essays…
Hi! First off, thank you for your support! It’s such an honour that want to share my work with the world. I really appreciate your courage in naming your desire to have safer space held, for you and other white people, to work through your personal and cultural traumas. I created this little guide to help…
*** Please don’t share this post because it isn’t for marketing *** I’m often asked where my compassions come from in regards to the Authentic Allyship project. This has been a very humbling question to me. And it’s taken a while to know how to give an answer that feels authentic. My compassion towards white…
One of the most surprising things to me when I first started publicizing my allyship nurturance work, which is based on the fundamental idea that allyship starts with an allyship to self, is angry opposition from white people. And I am not talking about white nationalists. I have yet to be spoken at aggressively by…
I’m writing this post today as I was beginning to launch my Authentic Allyship Coaching Group, a support program for white allies who are committed to healing their personal and cultural traumas. I had just announced the end of the test phase to my pilot group when a participant commented that they were looking forward…
NOTE: This post specifically addresses white allies but the principles are transferrable to any allyship relationship. Why we need boundaries: Emotional differentiation My understanding of allyship is that it is a relationship, rather than a one-way transaction. This means that principles of healthy relating apply, including enthusiastic consent and self-responsibility. I believe that these elements…
Racial justice is a labour of love. The problem is that we have not been taught to love ourselves or each other in a healthy way. In this post I will be exploring how care-taking behaviour learnt from childhood shows up as codependency in allyship and why this relationship dynamic needs to undone to work…
Artwork by Jill Greenberg NOTES & EDITS: This article is a re-work of another article that critiqued the shaming of white fragility in social justice communities. This post is directed mostly towards my white allies. ‘White tears’ is an ever popular word being used in social justice media these days. As a therapist I have…
